Parents await baby’s first word with a vigilance that rivals the arrival of baby himself.

The ability to communicate is one of the markers of leaving babyhood and entering full personhood.  In about 17 years, this ability will also be a marker of leaving home, and entering college.  Got SAT scores?

Talkative Toddlers defined:

Toddler

Well, to be precise I’ll define a toddler as someone who might or might not walk alone yet.  And if he does walk, he might or might not do it with unsteady steps, hence the word, toddle.

To be imprecise, yet ironically more accurate to the way the word is used, I’ll decree that a toddler is generally considered to be a child between the ages of 12 and 36 months.  A child with one or two birthdays behind him.

Talkative

The ability to use, understand, enjoy, practice, or respond to a developmentally-appropriate quantity of spoken language sounds, body language cues, and meanings.

Your 12 to 24 month-old will be talkative when he:

• Uses words and/or body language to express himself.
• Learns enough words to follow simple instructions.
• Has favorite songs, fingerplays, poems, or stories.  And enjoys hearing them repeated.
• Speaks baby jargon.  This interesting phenomenon sounds like “real” speech because of your baby’s ability to imitate grownup speech rhythms and vocal inflections.

Your 24 to 36 month-old will be a talkative one when he:

• Speaks in sentences.  Two and three words, at first.
• Understands orientational words like under, over, on, behind, in, out, and front.
• Is able to follow more complex instructions.
• Remember the words to his favorite songs, fingerplays, poems, or stories.  He’ll even say the words along with you as you read.
• Enjoys naming things.  Pictures in books, body parts, environmental graphics and print.

Success Secrets Revealed:

1. Talkative toddlers began life as talked-to babies.
2. They were seen and heard.  Adults spoke Parentese to them, listened to their cues, respected their requests.
3. Their parents knew what to expect.  Their loved ones understood that babies can understand more words, and understand them sooner than they can express those very words.
4. Talkative toddlers are multimedia-savvy.  In addition to words, there are songs, poems, and storybooks in their world.
5. They had role models.  Their big people (parents, siblings) played with songs, poems, conversations, books —  words in general.

I’m talking about the ability to talk.  There are differences in temperament, learning styles, and personality that will determine some children’s communication preferences.  Those traits are for people to choose and honor as they grow.  It is the work of parents to make sure that children have words at the ready when they want to use them.

The judge of knowledge (the teacher) decides which evidence (information) is worthy of consideration.

In later grades, the test is the method by which students are allowed to prove their cases, their understanding of the material.

What if your child already understands the facts of the case, and becomes bored?  Objection! What if your child is a kinesthetic learner, and will remember better by acting out what butterflies do?  Objection!

As a recovering schoolteacher, I can tell you that most of the thinking skills, learning styles, and beliefs about her own abilities will have already been set in your child’s mind before she sets foot in a formal classroom.

Shortly after birth, your newborn will tell you what’s on her mind by looking at things that interest her.  She’ll like to look at your face, your hairline, and high-contrast patterns.  By the time she is a settled baby (about 3 months old), she will indicate what looks interesting to her by reaching for it.  If your infant accomplishes the goal of actually grasping the tantalizing item, she’ll taste it.  Mouth exploration is normal, and necessary.  For now, it is polite to stare.  The brief gazes of a newborn evolve into a full stare by the time she’s 3 or 4 months old.  This gaze lasts about a minute, but it seems like forever to grandparents awaiting the return of a smile.

In the last half of baby’s first year (6-12 months), the mouth exploration no longer yields enough information.  Children of this age love to touch and poke different textures.  They also like to drop, yank, flick, bang, and pull things.  Here it comes again, folks… the “S” word:  Safety-proofing.  And we need to talk about the big “O” as well:  Object permanence.  This means that hiding contraband or distracting your baby is not the end of the issue anymore.  Your kid can now remember that something exists (and tastes delicious, btw), even though you just confiscated said item.  On the plus side, that milestone is an indicator of intellectual development.

The best possible preparation for formal schooling begins now.  If you nurture your baby in an environment that respects her questions by answering them, her future questions will continue to be meaningful ones.  If she discovers a talent or a niche that has a place of honor in her home, the inspirational process of learning will have a place of honor in her life. Your infant’s curiosity is an expression of innate intelligence.  Her learning instinct should be rewarded by the joy of discovery, not mishaps due to lack of safety-proofing.  Later in life, your child won’t be content to wait for an external authority to tell her what to think, or what to think about — if you let her practice at home.

When you honor your infant’s emerging wonder about the world, you allow your baby’s learning process to be less like a courtroom, and more like a laboratory filled with experiments, hypotheses about what will happen, theories, trial and error, logic, and the power of knowledge.

The human brain begins forming just three weeks after conception.  At peak development, the cerebral cortex creates 2,000,000 (wait let me count the zeros… yep, that’s two million) synapses every second.  Yes, every second.

Some of these connections form in utero so that reflexes and breathing can be in place at birth, yet others form when stimulated by:

• Baby’s environment (Mother Nature nominates you, Mommy),
• daily interactions (nomination seconded!), and
• the emotional transactions that lead to secure attachment (you just won yourself an election, little lady).

Every experience — from playing giggle games  to realizing that a loved one (a bigger, more capable one) appears in response to a cry, — touches and strenghthens specific circuits while leaving others untouched.  Think “guy at the gym who pumps a lot of iron, but obviously never works out his legs.”

Unused connnections prune themselves away.  As they should.  Streamlined neural porcessing makes the remaining connections more efficient.  Think “it certainly is easier to find the things I need in my pantry now that I’ve tossed the food that nobody was eating”.

By two years of age, a toddler’s cerebral cortex contains a density and quality of neurons that far surpasses adult levels — well over a hundred trillion.  I don’t even know how many zeros to put.  I used to know, but I stopped using the hundred-trillion part of my brain…..

The developing brain (the childhood brain) is far more responsive to stimulation than an adult’s brain.  This is termed “plasticity.”  The most revolutionary finding in neuroscience is the confirmation that all brains, new and old, have the regenerative power of neuroplasticity.  But in this area, especially, babies remain even brainier than the rest of us.

Learn

[Parent function]:

to observe, to know what to expect from your baby, when to expect it, and what to do about it.

Learn \’lərn\

[Baby function]:

to stare at, wonder about, poke, shake, experiment, smile at, taste, and drop.  Several times per day, during the first three years of life.

To a child development geek like me, the word “learn” has fascinating origins.  The ancient languages that gave us this word first described learning in terms of footprints, furrows and tracks.  Considering the process by which experiences shape the brain, and leave a physical trail of life’s experiences, it is clear that the old schoolers were intuitively aware of principles of neuroscience that would not be (could not be) confirmed for centuries.

Here are some images that remind me of how new experiences stimulate the infant brain: Envision walking along, leaving your footprints on a soggy beach when the tide is coming in.  The faint impression is there, but shallow, and not necessarily permanent.  Now think of a well-worn path that suggests itself as the best way to cross a yard, or hike a hill.  Those repeated trips across the terrain are analogous to how repeated experiences shape the brain.  On the beach or nature trail, our feet make the journey.  In our brains and bodies, electrical impulses carry information between brain cells (also called neurons).

The path of great persistence wins out in neuroscience.  Experiences make impressions, but repeated experiences lay down tracks and become more deeply grooved/organized with more and more usage.  Conversely, lack of stimulation leads to weak neuronal connections, and eventually a winnowing away of what could have been a connection.  And all of this happens incredibly quickly:

• Hundreds of millions of cells are made in baby’s brain before birth.
• At six months of age, baby’s brain is 50% of what the adult size will be.
• At three yeas of age, baby’s brain is 80% of what the adult size will be.

Most of the learning (brain development, really) that happens to your child, will happen with you as the teacher.  Under your tutelage, she will learn the life skills of walking, asking for help, self-dressing, self-feeding, curiosity, how to make friends and how to keep them, crying her heart out — but somehow smiling again.  Before her first day of formal schooling, she’ll already need to understand rules, responsibilities, the surprisingly complex business of using a bathroom, that fork vs. spoon thing, and how to love herself and others.

Your baby’s first classroom will be the world that parents show her.  That classroom will be as interesting or as boring, as authentic or as artificial, and as large or as small as the world you help her to experience.